Dear Amy Chua,
After reading your article, “Why Chinese Mother Are Superior”, written for the January 8th issue of the Wall Street Journal, I must say that I’m quite offended at how you boldly state that “Chinese” mothering techniques are far more successful than the more nurturing “Western” mothering. I find your sweeping generalizations of American parenting offensive particularly because I was raised by an American mother, whom I believe has done a wonderful job of raising her children. Just because a child does not grow up to become a Mechanical engineer or the president of a well-known company does not mean that they are “unsuccessful” and certainly should not entirely be blamed on the parents. The Chinese style of child rearing produces psychologically unstable, socially maladjusted, nervous wrecks, who from the constant insistence (from their “Chinese” mothers) of meeting impossibly high standards with the threat of a “screaming, hair-tearing explosion” (par. __) with the return of anything less than flawless perfection, bring impressionable children up into a “pressure cooker” of hostility and fear. (Vongs, ___).
You are quick to judge the parents who are concerned with damaging their child’s self-esteem but fail to understand why they feel that it is necessary to do so. Every parent’s dream is to have their child become something great, but we all have different opinions of what “great” stands for. Society has led us to believe that being successful means going to college, getting a good paying job, raising a family, etc. The pressure of trying to meet all of these set standards can be quite overwhelming for anyone. From personal experience, I can tell you that I have never been good at handling pressure and
it really _______ and is it worth all of the dedication when there are many consequences that come into play? Jane Chin, a Chinese Ph.D. woman who had grown up with “Tiger” parents, was very quick to rebuke your teaching style because of all of the scars she claims to be left with.
After reading your article, “Why Chinese Mother Are Superior”, written for the January 8th issue of the Wall Street Journal, I must say that I’m quite offended at how you boldly state that “Chinese” mothering techniques are far more successful than the more nurturing “Western” mothering. I find your sweeping generalizations of American parenting offensive particularly because I was raised by an American mother, whom I believe has done a wonderful job of raising her children. Just because a child does not grow up to become a Mechanical engineer or the president of a well-known company does not mean that they are “unsuccessful” and certainly should not entirely be blamed on the parents. The Chinese style of child rearing produces psychologically unstable, socially maladjusted, nervous wrecks, who from the constant insistence (from their “Chinese” mothers) of meeting impossibly high standards with the threat of a “screaming, hair-tearing explosion” (par. __) with the return of anything less than flawless perfection, bring impressionable children up into a “pressure cooker” of hostility and fear. (Vongs, ___).
You are quick to judge the parents who are concerned with damaging their child’s self-esteem but fail to understand why they feel that it is necessary to do so. Every parent’s dream is to have their child become something great, but we all have different opinions of what “great” stands for. Society has led us to believe that being successful means going to college, getting a good paying job, raising a family, etc. The pressure of trying to meet all of these set standards can be quite overwhelming for anyone. From personal experience, I can tell you that I have never been good at handling pressure and
it really _______ and is it worth all of the dedication when there are many consequences that come into play? Jane Chin, a Chinese Ph.D. woman who had grown up with “Tiger” parents, was very quick to rebuke your teaching style because of all of the scars she claims to be left with.
Companies say that the second most important thing that they look for in a worker is someone who can work in a team and can easily interact with other people. I believe that person should begin to build their social skills as early as possible in order to ready themselves for the “real world”. Kids who actively participate in events such as sleepovers or team sports have an earlier chance at enhancing their social skills. I have always been told
What are sleepovers good for? They teach kids how to interact with other kids and teach them how to co-operate.
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